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Relationship Challenges that Prevent Happiness
By Susie and Otto Collins, Relationship Coaches
There are many relationship challenges that keep couples from creating happiness in their lives. These challenges to love come from the past and many people don't have any idea how to make their relationships
better.
Some people need to build relationship trust. They may have been in past relationships where they have been hurt and it's difficult for them to open their hearts one more time. The relationship that lacks trust is one where one or both people feel like they are walking on eggshells and never fully allow themselves to commit to the relationship.
Other people are jealous, have jealousy issues and need to overcome jealousy. They may have been in a series of past relationships where their partner cheated on them. They may have low self-esteem issues. Whatever the reason, jealousy eventually tends to destroy relationships.
If you were to listen to many couples, they would tell you that they would like to have more intimacy and closer and more connected love making. In some cases, there is flirting
with other people because they want more attention. Their love making would improve and they would have
better sex if they start focusing on their relationship instead of looking outward for the attention and love that they aren't getting.
Along these same lines, couples say they want more romance in their relationship. They say they lack the time to be romantic
and they lack romantic ideas. They say that their relationships are dull, boring and there is no life in them. Romance can spice up a relationship but there has to be an effort to get at the core issues that are pulling the two people apart in order for it to have any long-term effect.
A big challenge for some couples is infidelity. When one or both people in the relationship are having affairs and they are not dealing with the problems, the relationship is most surely headed for divorce. In many cases, infidelity and affairs would never happen if people understood the importance of healing a broken heart that still exists from previous marriages or relationships that didn't work out. Because of these issues, many couples are facing break ups and divorce which are commonplace today.
Another challenge happens when two people come together, feel they have a soulmate connection but then feel irritations and differences coming between them. We've discovered that even if you feel that you are soulmates, you have to pay attention to your relationship and feed it daily. You have to give it the attention that you would give to anything else that you would want to grow.
Many people get together and after the initial "getting to know you and now I've got you" period, they put their relationship on auto-pilot. We've discovered that you can't do that and create a great relationship. In order to create a great relationship, you have to keep learning about each other, listen to each other, and learn new ways of getting past old habits and coming to the relationship with new eyes.
These challenges that we've talked about in this article can all be resolved with attention to individual personal growth and personal development. This personal growth can come in the form of free love advice which can be found in thousands of resources. What we recommend is that you start locating these free relationship advice resources that deal with your specific problems and start getting some answers that will help you create the relationships that you have always wanted. When you actively start looking for answers, we've discovered that they will come your way. The important thing is to start!
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